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Sunday, October 03, 20045:10 AM

wat is a fren? best fren?

here r some of my own opinions.

someone who shares the same interests, almost similar mindset, thinking.
s/o who loves u for who u r, s/o whom u treasure, & think dat u want her to understand u, know more things then other pple abt u.
laugh, cry, s/o whom u cun live w/o. or she cun live w/o u.
understands u.
be there for u.
ur so called 'twin' s/o who is always seen stickin wif/to u.

i guess. from wat i gathered, 'best fren' is quite only a term. i guess, many pple in some point of time, has a 'best fren'. but gd things dun last. dun they. *sigh. i dun recall having a super 'best fren'. probably i dun allow any. mayb its me. since pri skool til sec skool til poly. i would say all the frens i hav, r my gd frens. not best. havent really found one who could understand me fully. i guess, nobody gives me the chance, or coz i shun away from pple, coz i'm attached. n most pple think dat as long as i'm attached, he's all i need. all u pple out there who think this way. u r so wrong. he is impt to me. but i guess, there's still things i cannot say to him. i keep alot of things to myself. i guess, wat u pple see is only 70% of me. *sigh.

i hate it when i tell pple something, n they reply saying, they're even worst off then dat. i guess, everyone has problems. n when i see ppl replyin dat, i guess they mean: "u think only u hav problems ah." right. this r things dat encourage me to keep more things to myself. i'm selfish right, want ppl to take time to listen to wat i gotta say. *sigh. i guess, i shouldnt do things this way. mayb i should listen more to my frens. so i can be somebody's listener. who understands man. this?.. i guess i need a listener. or mayb i should buy a recorder. n in future u pple can tok to me n i will reply using it. i can record wat i wanna say, n no need to repeat it. if ever pple r gonna ask.

frens offer giv advice, guides, comments, companionship. i think everyone will die w/o frens, or u'll turn out to be pretty weird.

i feel for pple who r goin thru the following:

  • e.g. A treats B as a best fren. but B doesnt treat A as a best fren. wat should they do? sort of imbalance in this frenship. right? if one party wants the other to treat her in the same way, should she tell? or if B doesnt want A to treat her as her best fren, should she speak up? either way. it hurts. should they make things clear? or juz let nature take its course? or should B juz keep quiet n continue treating A the way she wants to be treated, n hopefully she'll understand one day? wat crap.

another way to look at it:

  • both u gals used to be very close. really great frens for years. trust each other, always tgt, know each other secrets. basically. u treat each other equally. at least its fair now. but as i said, all gd things must end. one very idiotic day comes, n one of u suddenly pulls away. she doesnt treat u like a best fren anymore. contributing factors include new skool, new frens, new environment, tired of u, etc etc. how would u feel..? its juz so saddening. one is the loyal fren whom u hav gone thru thick n thin wif. the other, juz change. wat a change. this change signifies the start of the end of ur 'best fren' relationship. get me? no? read dat sentence again. its juz so unfair. wat would u do, if u were in the former's shoes? start writing a letter to teenage/teens mag n ask kelly wat to do? innocent kids. *shakes head. reason i stop readin teenage n teens since sec skool. the problematic pages, r quite so very young readers wif problems. those like 12-16 yr old.

life is juz so unfair. wat to do. live wif it. it will forever be a bumpy ride. mayb its who u got to go thru those humps wif. it might make some, it might break some. u get lucky n unlucky at times.

so. to summarise, i guess, best frens r not really impt, i think having frens alone is gd enuf. if u will find frens who will go an extra mile for u, be it simple stuffs, like a sms saying take care, study hard, or any form of encouragement would really be enuf. sad to say, i think best fren dun last forever. probably they would. but so far, havent really had one. if u wann be somebody's best fren, tell her straight. i guess, keepin inside n showin it thru actions, she might start to get alarmed. perhaps telling her, then she'll know wat n how to treat u in a way. might be betta.

heres a quote out of mich's blog:
" In love and in pain, always know that you have friends. Friends are forever. A true friend will always be there for you in times of need, even when the rest of the world seems to have left you behind. I hope I can be such a friend, because I know I treasure the friends I have. "
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